There is an old poem written by Mary Stevenson that has made its rounds in Christian circles. You can find it on bookmarks, blankets, and a plethora of home decor. It goes like this:
One night I dreamed a dream.
As I was walking along the beach with my Lord.
Across the dark sky flashed scenes from my life.
For each scene, I noticed two sets of footprints in the sand,
One belonging to me and one to my Lord.
After the last scene of my life flashed before me,
I looked back at the footprints in the sand.
I noticed that at many times along the path of my life,
especially at the very lowest and saddest times,
there was only one set of footprints.
This really troubled me, so I asked the Lord about it.
"Lord, you said once I decided to follow you,
You'd walk with me all the way.
But I noticed that during the saddest and most troublesome times of my life,
there was only one set of footprints.
I don't understand why, when I needed You the most, You would leave me."
He whispered, "My precious child, I love you and will never leave you
Never, ever, during your trials and testings.
When you saw only one set of footprints,
It was then that I carried you."
This poem always seemed a little cheesy to me, and to some extent, it still does. But over the past year and a half, I have better understood the author's sentiments and the concept of being carried by the Lord.
When something life-changing happens to us, we begin to mark time as before the event and after. My Dad's death is one of these moments for me. I have walked through hard things before losing him, and I am confident there are hard things to come. In previous posts, I've been vulnerable and some might say raw in my attempt to work through my grief. But as I've picked up the pieces of my shattered heart and felt the sting of brokenness at different moments since June 11, 2023, I'm realizing new truths that I'm not sure I could have learned without this devastating loss. If you had asked me 3 or 4 years ago if I thought I struggled with a 'work-based' faith, I would have proudly said, "No, I am saved by grace". But as Romans 2:4 tells us, it is the kindness of the Lord that leads us to repentance, and in His mercy to me, Jesus showed me how I have indeed been living as if I could earn or merit His salvation. You see, after Dad went to be with Jesus, I felt betrayed by God, and perhaps one day I'll write a post on the reasons why I felt this way. I also felt like I couldn't trust Him. My faith, which I was so sure was rock solid, began to feel less secure the months following his passing. However, even as I rebelled like a 3-year-old pushing the limits of her parents' boundaries, I knew deep down there was nowhere else I would turn except to Jesus. During those dark months my heart was asking God a critical question, "will you really choose me, rescue me, love me, even in my rebellion?" One of my most favorite verses is found in Romans 5:8 and it so profoundly proclaims that 'God demonstrates His own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.' And while I wholeheartedly believed this truth, I had never really seen it acted out in my life. I accepted Christ as my savior at age 9, but up until now, I had not actively, knowingly, intentionally, chosen rebellion without remorse. Of course, I had sinned and "rebelled" in the past, but this was different; this was me testing God, asking Him to prove Himself to me. And while this sounds audacious and arrogant, I think it was from a place of deep pain and desperation. And what I found at the end of this season of rebellion and testing was Footprints in the Sand. My second Christmas after losing Dad, I saw a piece of artwork that showed a lamb in the woods, all alone and covered in mud, and in the background, there is a man imaging Jesus running towards the lamb. I asked mom for that canvas as a gift, and it hangs in my living room as a daily reminder that even when I went astray, even when I questioned, doubted, tested, rebelled, He left the 99 to find me. He taught me that I couldn't clean myself up, I couldn't earn His affections, I couldn't make it right, I didn't deserve rescuing, and even when I couldn't come to Him because I was blinded by my sorrow and unsure of His care, He carried me. He was patient with me, He was gentle with me. When I could not cling to Him, He picked me up. He taught me that He is secure. He was even merciful in His consequences for my sin. The repercussions of my rebellious heart were not without pain and suffering, but even in the discipline, He showed me how He is a perfect Father. I can't imagine ever being grateful for my Dad's death, but I am grateful that the Lord didn't waste it. The assurance of who God is and how He loves me "just because" is invaluable.